The Vagabondage Series: Elana discovers her answers in the here and now.
How many people do you think are out there looking for answers to questions like the following:
- what do I do next?
- who should I talk to about ________?
- where do I find the resources to _________?
- when is it a good time/bad time to _______?
- how can I have more of ________?
Judging by the increased interest in hiring a life coach and/or becoming a coach in the last decade, there are millions of people who are looking for someone to help them figure out how to cultivate, design and ultimately, nab the life they imagine for themselves.
After all, that’s why I hired my coach, Sandi.
And these people who are looking for answers aren’t helpless dummies that can’t think for themselves. In fact, the majority of people who seek out the services of a coach are intelligent and capable people like me with a sincere desire to have their life match their vision of what.
But despite hoping and dreaming, a coach is not a genie ready and waiting to grant your every whim!
No matter how good they are, they simply cannot grant wishes and wisely choose (most of the time) not to provide every answer.
This became clear to me last week when I expressed my angst by faintly whining, ‘I don’t know what to do’ or some variation thereof, during a weekly coaching call.
But the greatest thing happened.
Instead of an answer I got a question.
And this question was the trail of bread crumbs leading me right to the answer.
What if you did know what to do?
C’mon, read it again.
It’s pretty powerful and insanely simple.
This question cleared out my mental barriers like a genie’s magic carpet ride, guiding me to my own answers.
Because, truth be told, I did know what to do.
What I didn’t know was how to get around the mental maze of fear, insecurity and anxiety that was influencing my perspective at the time.
Am I free of psychological barriers (hello lizard brain!) and repetitive behaviours that get in the way of my ability to tap into my full potential? Not quite, but that’s ok because I’ve learned it doesn’t happen overnight and I’m willing to do what it takes.
What I am free of is the mental chatter that was drowning out my ability to hear what I already knew, the steps I need to take, the direction I want to move.
So here’s my challenge to you. . .
The next time you feel powerless or you can’t figure out what needs to be done to get out of a rut, jump-start a personal revolution, or simply get out of bed in the morning. . .
Ask yourself the question:
What if you did know?
And then wait.
You and I, we know a lot more than we think about what we need to do to move forward, embrace life, and create exciting opportunities.
But hey, you knew that already didn’t you?
- Pick an area of life you’ve been stuck in or complaining about recently.
- Sit with it for a few moments; get all its aspects.
- What would you do (about that area) if you really did know what to do?
- Wait for the answer (yes, there always is one!)
- Go do that!