Day 28 – Vocabulary
If you could eliminate one word from your brain forever—what would it be?
If you’ve read anything I’ve written the past year or even just my online bio, you’ll know that the word I’d eliminate is someday.
- at some unspecified time in the (distant) future
How I detest that word.
It lets you off the hook, not responsible for your life and makes me cringe with distaste. It calls to mind a funeral I attended a few years ago.
I saw people cry, full of regrets for what might have been with the deceased. I heard people make promises of how it would be different, maybe not right then and there, but someday.
Those promises? Soon forgotten.
I’m not immune to someday.
Everyone falls prey to it sometimes and I’ve had my periods of inaction and stuckness. I’ve also kicked my someday thinking to the curb on many occasions:
- Someday I’ll be more athletic. ==> I ran a half marathon at 34, one year after knee surgery.
- Someday I’ll figure out what I want to be when I grow up. ==>I found my calling as a coach at 37, and a new calling as a writer at 47.
- Someday I’ll write a book, even though I’m still not sure of the topic. ==> 2012 is the year this will happen.
Someday is a dream killer.
It will kill your dreams in a heartbeat if you let it. These 3 tips can help you avoid that regretful outcome!
3 Tips to Help You Kill Off Someday
1. Share your dream.
Listen up – if you can make your dream happen by yourself, your dream probably isn’t big enough. Your dream calls for you to give up your Lone Ranger attitude and ask for help.
Do you think I could have run 13 miles on my own? Hell no! I joined a runners’ group, I trained with friends and on race day I buddied up with a woman I’d only just met and we encouraged each other every step of those 13 miles.
Result: Not only did I finish the race, it’s still one of the things I’m most proud of to this day. In 2008 a New York Times article noted that less than 1% of the world’s population have run this distance. I’m no jock and I’ll never run it again, but that I did it makes my heart burst with pride and I guarantee I would never have done it on my own.
“Someday is now.” – Gaddy Bergmann
2. Discover what you don’t want.
I tried a lot of things before I discovered coaching! All of them presented opportunities to grow and learn and most importantly, discover what I didn’t want!
I didn’t sit around and wait for the perfect job or career to find me. I tried things on for size, learned what I could and moved on if it wasn’t my thing.
Result: When I finally became self-employed I had years of experience in many areas of life and business. This gave me a powerful toolkit to share with clients and make a difference.
“To change one’s life; Start immediately. Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions.” – William James
3. Declare your intentions.
When I shared my dream it took my breath away and fear gripped the back of my neck. Then, my lizard brain went on loudspeaker with an intensity I hadn’t felt in a long time! The fear was almost paralyzing.
Lizard Brain (LB): WTF were you thinking telling people you’re going to write a book?
Me: What? I”m excited, I’ve been writing consistently. I’m ready!
LB: Are you crazy???
Me: No, I’m just inspired and a wee bit on fire!
LB: OMG what have you done? We’ll never live this down if you fail.
Me: However it goes, it will not be a failure. Just relax LB
At that point LB fainted due to hysterics!
Result: I have wrestled my lizard brain to a reasonable level of annoyance. It will never go away and I don’t expect it to, but getting to this place is worth the ongoing effort.
“There are only 7 days in the week & “someday” is not one of them.” – Rita Chand
Someday is a dream killer.
Don’t let it get to yours.
Over to you:
You now have a choice:
- Follow your lizard brain down the someday road.
Or. . .
- Declare your dream and take the next step.
#reverb11 is a prompt driven writing project during the month of December. Its purpose is to inspire reflection and create intention for the coming year.