Authentic Creativity is Self-Love

6 Jul

 

Charlotte Rains-Dixon is in the house to share her creative wisdom! 

 

Maybe this looks like you, most days: 

–You schedule a time for your creativity and follow through with it.

–You get right to the page (or canvas), without pausing to surf the Internet or check email.

–You write in flow, not second-guessing yourself, not stopping to correct, just gloriously writing.

Or does this look more like you? Reclining Nude by Leo Mol

–You write a time for your creativity session on the calendar, but somehow when the time comes mopping the kitchen floor becomes urgent.

–You force yourself to the page, but when you get there you do anything but write—you check email, Facebook, decide to research the origin of cement.

–Finally, with a few minutes left, you start writing. But that first sentence doesn’t look so good. So you go back and tinker with it.  By the time your writing session is over, you’ve gotten no words on the page at all.

The first examples illustrate authentic creativity, which I believe is an expression of self-love.

The second examples illustrate procrastination, which shows us what a lack of self-love looks like.

Not allowing yourself the freedom to create authentically is a self-destructive act. If you have the deep desire to create but don’t act on it, you’re destroying—in advance—the contribution you could make to the world.

Think about the magnitude of that last sentence.

Now imagine the great works of art that are lost to the world every day because of a lack of confidence. Because of a lack of self-love.

But here’s the wonderful opposite to that tale: if you allow yourself the profound pleasure of creating, you fall in love with the world.

My great passion is writing novels, and sometimes, in the busyness of doing other writing projects, I let this passion lapse for a week or so. But I firmly guide myself back to it because I know what will happen: my whole worldview will change.

After a novel writing session, I’m suddenly in love with the world. Everything looks different—the trees look greener, the sky looks bluer, the people walking down the sidewalk make my heart burst with joy.

I’ve fallen in love with the world.

And that is because I’m in love with myself.

Because you can’t love the world until you love yourself.

And let me tell you, falling in love with the world is the best feeling in the world. And this is what expressing yourself creatively does—it leads you to more of both self-love and being in love with the world, a constant flow of it.

All you have to do is tap into it.

How?

The best way to do it is simply to begin.

Allow yourself to create fabulously bad work or even amazingly good work. Just do it. Beginning is the hardest part.

Start now.

 

headshot of Charlotte Rains-DixonCharlotte Rains-Dixon is a writer and writing coach whose first novel, Emma Jean’s Bad Behavior, will be published in February of 2013. Visit her website, www.charlotterinasdixon.com for hundreds of articles on writing, creativity, and inspiration. And be sure to check our her upcoming one-night teleclass on Authenticity + Creativity.

 

15 comments
TheJackB
TheJackB

I would lose my mind if I didn't take time to just write. Doesn't matter whether it is good, bad or in between- that moment in time in which I write is of paramount importance to me.

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Gayletrini
Gayletrini like.author.displayName 1 Like

Oh I so needed to read this today. Thanks Charlotte.

And Sandi thanks to you the site is looking good! Haven't been by in a very long while but it sure looks good.

CharlotteRDixon
CharlotteRDixon

Carol, I've only just recently been looking at the connection between self-love and creativity myself, so I'm glad it resonates with you and others.

 

David, thank you! It is staggering to think of what we've lost because people are fearful of expressing themselves--or even loving another!

David Paine
David Paine

Dynamite post! Thinking about what we are denying the world by not loving ourselves enough goes in all sorts of directions - beyond artistic output to all of human relations. Good stuff!

Carol Hess
Carol Hess

I have never thought about the link between self-love and creativity before, Charlotte.  But you're right.  The more my self-love grows, the more creative I become.  Thank you for the gift of a brand-new way of looking at something.  And thank you, Sandi, for turning the Deva stage over to Charlotte.

CharlotteRDixon
CharlotteRDixon

Oh Sabrina, I'm totally with you on cleaning! I always joke that if my house is clean,  you know I'm blocked.  I'm so glad the idea of self-love and creativity is helpful to you!

Sabrina at MyMiBoSo
Sabrina at MyMiBoSo

Wow, I'm not alone...you have so aptly described what I look like sometimes when I set aside the time to work on my blog. I don't even like cleaning, and yet somehow even that becomes preferable to the act of pouring my heart out on paper (or screen).But this idea of self-love through expression is a biggie...and will keep coming back to that every time I hear the procrastination monster's voice :) 

CharlotteRDixon
CharlotteRDixon

Thank you, Melissa!  And I know exactly what you mean--sometimes it is the hardest thing in the world to take time for our creativity.  But when its really important to us, we're shortchanging ourselves--and the world--big time.

Melissa Marsh
Melissa Marsh

So well said. I need to mentally link loving myself to my creativity. So many times I don't get to the page because I find something else to do - and I get very angry at myself for it. Perhaps it's even a form of self-loathing. So I MUST remember this. Great post, Charlotte. Thank you!

CharlotteRDixon
CharlotteRDixon

30YearOldNinja, I LOVE that you have a weekly phone call with your father wherein he gives you a life lesson.  I hope you're writing a book about that, it sounds awesome! And thanks for the great compliment about this post.

 

WendyIrene, what you say is so true--when we take care of ourselves we are so much better able to serve others, like our children.

 

Giulietta, glad you came over here.  I, too, love to begin things--I just have to discipline myself to end them once in awhile, also!  Too often I fall prey to "bright shiny object" syndrome, with a million projects going at once. 

 

SquarePegKaren,I adore you!

SquarePegKaren
SquarePegKaren

Here's to ALL of us leaning, more and more, in to self-love! Love what you said about the "constant flow", Charlotte, makes me think of a spiral! Thanks for this - and Sandi, thanks for sharing Charlotte's wisdom here <3

Giulietta
Giulietta

Hi Charlotte, Stopped by your site and came over here.

 

I begin everything! Really enjoy that part. Think that's why I'm always coming up with new class ideas, essays, etc. We learn in school and elsewhere not to begin without someone yelling, "go." Over time that gets reinforced until as adults the vast majority of folks can't begin anything except consumer purchases.  Thank god, I didn't always pay attention in school and did get into some rows with the teachers or I might be a non-beginner as well. (They often sent me out of the room for not doing as I was told.)

 

I look forward to reading your book. Great, fun title! Giulietta.

Wendy Irene
Wendy Irene

I loved this post! When I keep to my daily routine of 10 minutes meditation immediately followed by writing time it does feel like an act of self-love. When I let it slide and skip doing it my overall well-being is impacted. Taking care of myself and allowing time for creativity makes me a better person and a better Mom.

30YearOldninja
30YearOldninja

HI Charlotte, 

 

Wow. It is really interesting that you bring this up. I have a weekly discussion with my father where he gives me a life lesson. Just last weekend we went through a discussion that dealt with authenticity. 

 

The conclusion that we came up with is that the only way to truly express one's creativity is for them to be truly authentic. 

 

I think the struggle with authenticity is that we are all vulnerable to doubting ourselves. Do I really have something to give? Can I actually give any value? 

 

As you point out. Yes we can! And the only way to truly do it is if we are authentic. As I went through the post I kept on asking "how can I be authentic?" And then I got to the end. 

 

"Allow yourself to create fabulously bad work or even amazingly good work. Just do it. Beginning is the hardest part."

 

Begin. It is so simple yet so complex. Allow myself the opportunity to be me. 

 

Wonderfully written post. It touched my soul :)