“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.” - Rumi
In the beginning there’s your dream and its companions, enthusiasm and desire.
What follows right after is fear, which prevents you from fanning the flames of your dream.
Can you make a living?
Do you have what it takes?
Do you really know what to do?
These are the questions that turn the dream into a nightmare keeping you up at night.
And then there’s the rallying cry of “Do what you love and the money will follow!”
Here’s the thing very few tell the truth about. . .
The money doesn’t always follow and passion will only get you so far.
In the world of personal development, that might sound blasphemous, but therein lies the challenge and the discomfort.
Because being passionate about what you do is only one part of the dream.
I was reminded of this in December during a collaboration that surprised me with its depth and impact.
In fact, it went so well Cigdem and I decided to join forces on another project and we’ve now opened the doors to the Circle of Cohorts: a private circle of women solopreneurs who grow, create and thrive together.
“I live my life in widening circles that reach out across the world.” – Rainer Maria Rilke
So then, how do you widen your circle and ultimately set your dream on fire?
5 Tips for Setting Your Dream On Fire
5 Tips for Setting Your Dream On Fire
1. Ignite Your Feelings
A strong vision is important but you’ve got to get specific.
What do you really want? What does your ideal day look like? How many hours do you want to work? How much income do you want to generate?
Get specific about the details, then go deep with your feelings.
How do you want it all to feel?
”Check ignition and may God’s love be with you…” – David Bowie
2. Tune In To Receive
You’re a giver; it’s part of what makes you so awesome.
And it’s most likely your dream’s greatest goal to make the world a better place in some way. But like passion, that desire will only get you so far. You have to tune in to a new way of being.
You have to become willing to receive.
Until you do, you’ll be greatly limited in how many people you can help. They say it’s better to give than to receive, but they’re wrong.
You have to be equally good at receiving, or the people who need your work – the ones you most want to serve – may never hear your message. And in that scenario, nobody wins.
“Receive without conceit, release without struggle.” - Marcus Aurelius
- finish my book
- launch that program
- fill in the blank. . .
And then another. And another.
Action trumps someday thinking every time.
What’s one action you’ve been avoiding? Go do that one thing today.
“Someday is a dream killer.”
4. Examine Your Resources
Anything is possible with the right resources. When’s the last time you examined the tools you’ve accumulated on the journey?
The tools you collected as a student, parent, or employee might still be useful, but are they exactly what you need to take this dream all the way?
Give your resources a reality check. With your eyes wide open you’ll see what you’ve already got, but also what’s needed to move forward and fuel your dream.
“All the resources we need are in the mind. ” - Theodore Roosevelt
5. Step Into the Circle
If you can fulfill your dream alone, your dream’s not big enough.
Not only do you limit it, but come on, it’s not nearly as much fun as when you have fabulous cohorts along for the ride.
There’s an African proverb that says, “It takes a village to raise a child.”
I say it takes a circle to stoke the fire of your dream.
Learn from those who have traveled before you. Choose a mentor who’ll share both her knowledge and experience. Give up your attachment to doing it your way.
When you surround yourself with the right kind of support, you’ll rise like the phoenix, stepping out of the fire more alive and fiery then ever before.
“I seem to have run in a great circle, and met myself again on the starting line.” - Jeanette Winterson
Your dream is worth the effort, don’t you think?